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Government Nannys & Nutritionists?

Ok, we can all agree that access to information is a good thing. Most people seem to think that the new Federal Requirements (regulations) on restaurants to post calories and fat content is at least good information to have. But this column in the Missourian – It’s Time for the Public to Play a Role [...]

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Do What I Say – NOW!

Wow! What a day. When kids run in packs, they get pack mentality. The adults are not really part of their pack and therefore not the leadership they want to listen to. Here at the Hacienda the kids had friends over most of the day. As the day progressed they developed more refined, or should [...]

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What Goals Do Your Kids Have?

The positive effects of having goals have been measured in multiple studies. Goal achievement is directly related to beliefs about the self. For example, when expectation levels are held constant, higher levels of performance come from individuals who have set and attained goals in the past. They believe that with effort they can attain the [...]

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What’s So Great About Failure [Part III of III]

DOGGED PERSISTENCE A continuation from yesterdays “What’s So Great About Failure Part II”. Is it always best to persist? Not necessarily. There is a cost to benefit ratio in everything we do. Mastery-oriented responses push beyond the initial resistance of the challenge and usually get better results. It isn’t uncommon for even mastery-oriented mindsets to [...]

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What’s So Great About Failure? [Part II of III]

HELPLESS RESPONSE PATTERN A continuation of “What’s So Great About Failure Part I.” How to keep your kids motivated. This group of kids not only gave up, but they didn’t even try, they met with uncertainly and condemned their abilities rather than attempting something difficult. It was noted that the children that gave up, did [...]

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What’s So Great About Failure [Part I of III]

Helpless vs. Mastery Oriented Responses Kids as well as adults get caught up in looking good or keeping up appearances. However, when we look back at the linchpins, difference makers, innovators, in short the leaders we admire – they were not doing what they thought would look good. If we compare the innovators mindset to [...]

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Dynamic Parenting & Growth Mindsets [part 2]

Dynamic = Incremental Theory The “incremental theory” is held by children and adults who believe that their abilities are dynamic and malleable. Effort changes abilities. The children who hold incremental theories of themselves and their abilities know that these are not fixed traits or gifts that cannot be changed. They don’t think in terms of [...]

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Dynamic Parenting & Growth Mindsets [part 1]

Static = Entity Theory One of the most commonly help misconceptions is that we have a fixed set of abilities, talent, and intelligence. When polled the general public holds a belief that we are born with “it” or without “it”. In other words we believe that our intelligence and abilities are fixed. In Dr. Carol [...]

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Helicopter Parents Crash

A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, put a few nails in the coffin of Helicopter Parents. The New York Times reported: “Childhood rates of chronic health problems, including obesity, asthma and learning disabilities, have doubled in just 12 years, a new study reports – to 1 in 4 children in [...]

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Are You Striving To Be The Favorite?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-favorite-child/201003/is-there-favorite-parent You’ll need to read Dr. Ellen Weber Libby’s article to the end to get to the, What, How and Why. She makes some excellent points against trying to be the favorite and putting adult children into perspective.

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