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Favoritism

Average – Above Average & WOW!

Blending-in and being part of a crowd or community is an art form for a kid. The coveted title of “Popular,” and the antithesis “Shy Kid” are extremes of a spectrum that doesn’t value accomplishment and effort. Kids want to belong, so do we for that matter. One of our most profound desires and motivations [...]

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Helicopter Culture

Hand Wringing Historically, culturally we are in a dark, at least gray, period. There’s a lot of hand wringing going on. People openly purposing that we give up our freedoms, give up the right to raise our children. They seem to be in favor of “big brother” type options. They don’t actually go so far [...]

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What’s So Great About Failure [Part III of III]

DOGGED PERSISTENCE A continuation from yesterdays “What’s So Great About Failure Part II”. Is it always best to persist? Not necessarily. There is a cost to benefit ratio in everything we do. Mastery-oriented responses push beyond the initial resistance of the challenge and usually get better results. It isn’t uncommon for even mastery-oriented mindsets to [...]

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What’s So Great About Failure? [Part II of III]

HELPLESS RESPONSE PATTERN A continuation of “What’s So Great About Failure Part I.” How to keep your kids motivated. This group of kids not only gave up, but they didn’t even try, they met with uncertainly and condemned their abilities rather than attempting something difficult. It was noted that the children that gave up, did [...]

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Dynamic Parenting & Growth Mindsets [part 2]

Dynamic = Incremental Theory The “incremental theory” is held by children and adults who believe that their abilities are dynamic and malleable. Effort changes abilities. The children who hold incremental theories of themselves and their abilities know that these are not fixed traits or gifts that cannot be changed. They don’t think in terms of [...]

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Are You Striving To Be The Favorite?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-favorite-child/201003/is-there-favorite-parent You’ll need to read Dr. Ellen Weber Libby’s article to the end to get to the, What, How and Why. She makes some excellent points against trying to be the favorite and putting adult children into perspective.

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